Some cats melt the second a brush touches them. Others react like you just pulled out the vacuum. If you've got the second kind, most cats can still learn to tolerate brushing, and some even come to like it. You just have to let them set the pace.
Why your cat hates it
Cats are touchy about touch, especially on the belly, the tail and the back legs. A brush that snags on a tangle, one bad experience, or simply being held in place can make the whole thing feel like a threat. What you're trying to do is swap that feeling for a new one: brush means calm attention and a treat.
Step 1: Start with your hands
Pet them where they already like it. For most cats that's the cheeks, the chin and the top of the head, which are the same spots cats groom on each other.
Step 2: Let the brush just sit there for a while
Leave it next to their favorite nap spot for a day or two. Let them sniff it and rub their face on it. Give a treat when they check it out.
Step 3: One stroke, then you're done
Run the brush once along their cheek. Treat. That's the whole session. Tomorrow, two or three strokes. It feels ridiculously slow, but it works much better than trying to do the whole cat on day one.
Step 4: Watch the tail and ears
A relaxed cat has soft eyes, a still tail and maybe a purr. Flattened ears, a twitching or thumping tail, skin that ripples along the back, or a sudden stare at the brush all mean "that's enough." Stop before they swat, and end on a good note.
Step 5: Work your way back
Over a week or two, go from the head to the neck, the shoulders and the back. Save the belly and back legs for last. Some cats will never be okay with those spots, and that's fine.
If they hate every brush
Some cats just don't do brushes. A grooming glove gets around that, because it feels like regular petting. You pull out loose fur, and they think they're getting attention. Technically, they are.
What about mats?
Don't pull on tight mats. It hurts, and it will undo all your progress. Small, loose ones can sometimes be worked apart with your fingers. Anything tight against the skin should go to a groomer or your vet, and please don't take scissors near your cat's skin at home.
Go easy on yourself
Some days your cat will allow one stroke. That still counts. Short and regular beats long and stressful, every time.
Our Mist Grooming Brush has soft silicone teeth and a light mist, so you pick up more fur with fewer strokes.